Here is the second part of our mini series on self-awareness. If you want to develop your conscious human skills the first step has to be self-awareness. Below are 4 more really great tips to continue your journey.

1. Practice meditation and other mindfulness habits.
Meditation is the practice of improving your mindful awareness. Most types of meditation focus on the breath, but not all meditation has to be formal. You can also find greater clarity from regular moments of reflection.
During your meditations, you may stop to think about some specific questions.

  • What are your goals?
  • What are you doing that is working?
  • What are you grateful for?
  • How can you change to improve yourself?

2. Take personality and psychometric tests.
Take these personality and psychometric tests to help understand what traits you have. My favourite is the MBTi Myers Briggs, I have been using it for 17 years and its life changing as it helps you to appreciate your differences and the differences of others. This helps you develop relationships, understand colleagues, friends and family and improves your social skills. This is a link to a free version you can use

3. Ask trusted friends to describe you.
How are we supposed to know what other people think of us? We have to listen to the feedback of our peers and mentors, and let them play the role of an honest mirror. Tell your friends when you are looking for open, honest, critical, and objective perspectives. Allow your friends to feel safe while they are giving you an informal yet honest view.
Make sure your friends know that they are doing this to help you, not to hurt you. You can also ask friends to bring it to your attention when you are doing something that you know you want to change.

4. Ask for feedback at work.
In addition to consulting friends and family, use a more formal process at work to get some feedback. Provided it is constructive and well done, having an option for formalised feedback allows us to self-reflect on our own strengths and weaknesses.

Once the feedback process is finished, it is important to reflect on it by writing down your main takeaways. Write down any surprising strengths and weaknesses that you did not realise you had before.

It will take some time to increase your self-awareness and get to know yourself better. It can even take years and input from many people around you. Making the effort though can set you apart, the worst participants I have on soft skills courses are the ones that are not self aware and have no intention of changing, usually they are inflexible, stuck in their ways and unpleasant to be around. …don’t let that be you!